time ago I had the opportunity to participate in rounds of family constellations. One of them was for a girl who had great sentimental conflict because, at that time, she had a boyfriend but she feared it would lose because he had several relationships and several partner changes and did not want to go through those changes.
Between one thing and another I ended up doing the "role" of the current boyfriend or putting in place. Still do not know how the constellations, the fact is that when someone puts in place of a person connected with the protagonist really looks like metamorphose into that person in the truest sense of the word and so I lived, in fact, from the first moment I started feeling bad, fatal as I left the circle and left no room for shame (and indeed was the last performance I did of how bad it was spent).
To summarize the issue, the problem was that the girl thought to be more compatible with their current relationship "had to feel an aversion" or negative feelings of rejection towards their former partners which was the exact opposite to what really should be! So that was reconciled with each of his previous partners (represented at that time by many other people) "ancient healing that relationship" and, curiously, was healing those relationships as I was feeling better! Until he reached his current relationship-me-and I felt a happiness and joy unspeakable ...
This experience impressed me deeply, and why? Because throughout life, deeper or less, most went through several relationships and the tendency to think is that if I keep feeling affectionate or positive to the previous relationship is as if the current cheating or something the like, however, as demonstrated with the previous year, is completely essential to heal and reconcile the old feelings to have a full and satisfying life in the future because, ultimately, the problem was the star is that their partners perceived those bad feelings and just what I was away!
This is consistent with deep philosophies which say that in the future, we are all united in a great ocean of love, and not devote "all" to one person but we must start learning to love all as part of the Unit we are.
A great lesson to be learned and not taught in any school, being something so primal.
And to improve, let's see what flowers would help us in this task. HOLLY
or universal love. It helps to temper the anger, jealousy, suspicion, mistrust. WILLOW
for forgiveness. It makes us see the responsibility we carry in every situation. Chicory
or maternal love. To avoid the victims, those of "with what I did for you"
WALNUT for the changes and see that even changing there is always a stable background, permanent, or the ALL ONE. PINE
happiness ... to afford ... despite the accusations fly helps oneself. LARCH
for good self-esteem and know that we are each a unique being that is at all times where and with whom must be and is happy because he deserves it.
This is a small pattern, then as each of which can extend the range.
And finally, a quote from St. Augustine: AMA AND DO WHAT YOU WANT.
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